The holiday season, often a time of joy and togetherness, can also be a period of heightened stress and conflict for couples on the brink of divorce. While not all relationships will end in separation during this time, certain warning signs may indicate that a divorce could be imminent. Perhaps universally, marriages ending in divorce are the result of unhappiness by one spouse, the other, or both. The unhappiness which might lead to divorce can be resolved if the spouses are willing and able to do it. However, the holidays certainly can exacerbate the situation to a breaking point.
One of the most common warning signs is a significant decrease in communication. Couples might argue more frequently, speak less to each other, or avoid conversations altogether. This breakdown in communication can stem from various underlying issues, such as unresolved conflicts, differing expectations, or simply growing apart.
Another red flag is a decline in intimacy and physical affection. Couples might withdraw emotionally, spending less time together or engaging in fewer shared activities. This lack of connection can lead to feelings of loneliness, resentment, and dissatisfaction within the relationship.
Furthermore, a noticeable change in behavior or attitude can be a warning sign. One partner might become withdrawn, irritable, or dismissive of the other’s feelings. This shift in behavior can create distance and hinder efforts to resolve problems.
Additionally, the presence of significant stress or life changes can exacerbate existing relationship problems. The holiday season, with its added pressures and expectations, can amplify these stressors and push couples to their limits.
If one or both spouses are already considering divorce, the holidays might provide a catalyst for taking action. The desire for a fresh start in the new year or the need to create new traditions for their children may accelerate the decision-making process. Sometimes, the unhappiness underlying a martial relationship can lead to misbehavior during a holiday gathering. It might take a variety of forms, from mistreatment of a friend or relative or even infidelity which may or may not have actually occurred.
Not all of these warning signs necessarily indicate an impending divorce. However, if multiple signs are present, and the issues are more than a passing incident, it may be a sign that the marriage needs significant maintenance or help for which a licensed mental health professional is a good recourse.
Ultimately, the decision to divorce is a personal one. If a couple is struggling during the holidays, it is crucial to communicate openly and honestly, seek support from loved ones or a therapist, and consider whether the relationship can be salvaged or if it is time to move on.
